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Just Venting…
Posted under Ex's, How I See It by MikeBecause let’s face it, this is why we have blogs in the first place…
Once again the ugly head of my past divorce has come to haunt me. An email (what no phone call?) from my ex has got me really pissed off.
I’m going to have to go sit in a corner and mutter my mantra: “It could be worse, we could still be married” until I calm down.
We divorce about nine years ago and in our divorce decree we agreed that as tax deductions we would swap our daughters (two of them) back and forth. She would have my oldest on odd years and I would have the youngest. On even years she would have the youngest and I would take the oldest.
Fair enough. For 2008 I have the oldest.
A recent email from my ex came to me “asking” if she could use my oldest as a tax deduction this year. Her reasoning was that she felt she contributed more to her in financial support. This would give her both kids to write off.
I replied that I need to decline her request (yes, I was very cordial). I said that you may be contributing more to her financial support now; but I have contributed much more in the past and have not made the same request to you.
I also explained that my accountant and I discuss the upcoming year and make our decisions based on who and what can be deducted. If she wanted this to happen, she should have talked to me months ago, not just before she’s seeing her accountant.
Her reply was that she was going to do whatever she damn well pleased.
Now she’s really pissed me off.
I told her good luck on getting an accountant to change our divorce agreement. I also told her that if she wasn’t careful we might both be audited for trying to deduct the same child. I have an agreement on my side.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to go sit in the corner for awhile…
“It could be worse, we could still be married”
Hoo boy! Well if she follows through, bil her the extra “hours” it will take for you to change your normal status.
Stick to your agreement.
Good luck – and you ARE right – It could be worse!
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Oh boy!!! My husband’s wife did this last year…and he didn’t know it until he didn’t get a tax refund. He has gone through hoops….lots of hoops to try to get it fixed. To NO avail!!! He still doesn’t have last years tax refund. File your taxes ASAP and let her go through the hoops instead!!! Because it doesn’t matter that she filed with both kids as a deduction…the accountant won’t be asking who she can claim…and if he does…she’ll just say both…not needing any proof. And if you file after her…then you will be getting a nice little letter telling you that “this” child has already been claimed. YOU will be going through millions of hoops with the irs to try to prove that it was your year to claim said child. It’s a huge pain in the ass.
P.S. What a Bitch!!!
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Whew. I don’t envy you there. I love the oh-so-mature response of “I’ll do whatever I damn well please”. If she does claim your daughter, wouldn’t she be in contempt of court since she’s going against the document stating that she only claim one daughter?
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My best friend has similar tales about her ex……..and the e-mails, oh the e-mails! Do what she does, print off the e-mail where your ex says she’s going to do whatever she damn well pleases. That way, you’ve got the proof.
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Wow. If this type of crap doesn’t make me want to work EVERYTHING out with my wife, I don’t know what will.
What a HUGE pain in the butt! Sorry man, keep us posted.
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Not fun. Pour yourself a nice cocktail and think happy thoughts.
My ex deducts both kids. Apparently, my lawyer dropped the ball and we should be rotating every other year with who deducts. Now, I can only do it if he can’t get a tax benefit by claiming them. Which means, “if he makes too much money”. Which will happen but he’ll never tell me, just to be annoying. Oh well. It’s not worth my effort really. I’ll let him live with himself
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Deep cleansing breathe! Wow, that does take some nerve. Good luck!
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You want me to go kick her butt for you? I will. Just say the word.
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I’ve got 2 words: Tax Fraud. You are at least covered & you did warn her. Nice of her to leave a “paper trail” of her intent to break the law.
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That really sounds major suckage over there. I got nothing.
clickmom’s last blog post..enjoy the journey
No wonder you’re divorced. She seems very ME centered.
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Just out of curiosity, why swap them? My ex and I each take the same one as a deduction and will do that until we only have one minor. Then whoever the deduction beefits most will take that younger one, and we’ll split whatver the savinsg are. But then again, I have a friendly relationship with him, which makes all the difference in the world. I don’t envy you having to deal with that.
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And people wonder why I am trying to reconcile. Good luck.
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We had a similar problem a few years ago when my sister-in-law lived with us. It didn’t go real well. Thankfully, I opted to keep us out of the fight, but my SIL and MIL…uff.
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